22 Dating Dealbreakers
What are your relationship deal breakers? Bad breath? Too materialistic? Rude to wait staff? We all have them. And it’s important to identify your own deal breakers before entering any sort of relationship, long-term or short-term.
People often prioritize the negative qualities in people when deciding to be or to continue to be in a relationship with someone. The following 22 individuals show that it’s a good thing to be picky and allow these deal breakers to pull a stronger weight than some of the positive qualities found in people.
Hygiene. If she smells, I don’t care if she’s Scarlett Johansson – she’s gonna have to take a cab home.
Dakota 19
Closed-minded. If I don’t like to have closed-minded friends, why would I date someone who isn’t accepting of people just because of who they are? If he shows any signs of homophobia or racism, it’s a hard pass for me.
Marissa 20
No hobbies. She has to have hobbies so I can comfortably keep mine! If she wants to make you her hobby, run.
T.J. 20
Poor taste in music. She’s gotta love good music. You bet I’ll overplay my tunes with her in car rides to open her eyes to good music – even if we’re just chilling, I’m playing my music. If she doesn’t appreciate and continues to play the “Top Pop Culture” bullshit hits, I’ll get very annoyed very quickly.
Alex 21
Dishonesty. It’s simple, not being faithful. That’s all it takes. If you cheat, we’re done. No questions.
Austin 21
Beauty but no brains. This guy was totally my type – super attractive, super California. He was a total stoner but it honestly didn’t bother me until I realized he wasn’t just dumb when he was high, he was just unintelligent in general. I tolerated his stupidity because he was sweet – and hot. It got to the point where I was even embarrassed to bring him around my friends because he didn’t know how to hold a conversation. Long story short, don’t be distracted by how hot a guy is if he literally has nothing else to offer
Lauren 22
Doesn’t get along with family or friends. If she were any form of stuck up, disrespectful, or entitled I could never date someone long-term. She’s gotta mesh with the family and friends or it’s gonna be one long 50-year period
Andrew 22
Really religious. If they judge others more than working on their own progress and growth, that’s going to be an issue. I just don’t ever see myself becoming religious again and if it’s important to them for me to be, then that’s also going to be an issue. I don’t mind hearing about religion or talking about it, but I really don’t think I could date someone that lives and breathes it – that really buys into it. I honestly don’t even want to raise my kids with a religion.
Elsie 22
Height. If she’s taller than me or even as tall as me, can’t do it. I’m a tall guy and I would not want to make it work with a giraffe neck ass of a girl, it’s intimidating!
Robby 23
Drug dealer. I 90% of the time go for people I think I can fix, and this guy was no different. Just a typical bad boy that was surprisingly charming and gentlemanly with me. He’d mentioned a past with drugs but said it was over. One day, he was supposed to pick me up from work. Two hours and 20 concerned, unanswered phone calls from me later, I decided to go over to his apartment. I found him outside sitting on top of his shitty, beat-up silver Toyota Camry dealing drugs from his hand-me-down backpack. In broad daylight, these idiots would walk up, hand him the cash, and get weed, coke, and who knows what else in return. When I confronted him, he said the money was too good and that he couldn’t pass up this “amazing business opportunity.” I’m not a fan of jail time, or hard drugs, so it was easy to say goodbye right then and there.
Kelly 23
Substance abuse. If she was really worth it, I would support her in getting better. If she was genuinely working on it and trying to be better I’d absolutely stick around but if she was putting in zero effort to better her situation over a consistent span of time… Bye bye and good luck!
Justin 24
Ugly. Call it shallow, but I’m not gonna suck face with a guy at a bar if I’m not attracted to him, let alone date someone I’m not attracted to!
Megan 25
Caring too much about appearance. Caring about your appearance is one thing, but too much is a turn off. Like I’m not a fan of lipstick, obviously wear it for special occasions or whatever, but if she has to wear hooker red lipstick every time we leave the house, no thanks.
Brett 26
Smoking. When you make out, your noses are right next to each other. It’s not even just having to taste it – cause you can get rid of that with a quick toothbrushing. But when they breathe out their smokey lungs through their nose, which takes a good amount of time to clear out, you have to breathe it in immediately with your nose too. I just can’t deal with that. If they were cool with me not making out with them for a couple days every time they smoked, then maybe it could work out. But honestly have you ever met a girl who didn’t get angry when you didn’t give her physical attention for a couple days?
Joshua 27
No goals. They have to have aspirations and goals. Are these even realistic goals? Do their goals match mine? I once dated a vegan runner who wanted me to eat and do the same things he did. I’ve dated so many people that you get used to trying new things. In the end his goal was to “convert” me to his lifestyle and I couldn’t do it. Needless to say, the day we broke up I went to Shorts and loaded up my burger with double cheese and fried egg, you know, the works.
Melissa 28
Playing too hard to get. Maybe my standards are too low because I honestly can’t think of that many deal breakers. One thing I am weirded out by, though, is when girls don’t reply to my text messages and are clearly playing some type of game with an agenda. Texting is just so crucial in their lives, it’s hard to keep up with honestly. But when I do keep up with it, I don’t want to be a part of their “playing hard to get” scheming.
Dustin 29
Being a drunk. It’s expensive and exhausting. They have to want to change or it’s not worth it.
Erin 30
Doesn’t want to settle down. If she isn’t interested in getting married, I would never want to look back and see the relationship as a waste of time – since I do want to get married. I don’t want to be in the same place I was three years ago with someone who doesn’t ever want to get serious.
Jacob 35
Political difference. Trump supporter. That’s all I need for a deal breaker.
Ben 42
Too close with an ex. I started dating this guy who had an oddly close relationship with his ex-wife. The constant contact, texting, calling, whatever, I was just too weirded out by it. Sure enough, I found out he invited her to stay with him for a month and he didn’t even tell me!
Suzanne 55
Too controlling. I was dating this guy noted every dollar on an Excel spreadsheet for every penny spent on me. For every dollar written in the leger, I needed to spend the same amount on him. I’m only four years younger than he was! I’m not a twenty-year-old gold-digger, for crying out loud, are you really just that cheap?
Jeanette 58
Age. I won’t date anyone younger than me, not even by a year. I’ve got a limited pool now but I just refuse be a cougar.
Cathy 60
*disclaimer* Some names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.